“To respect someone means to treat their ideas, personal space, belongings, and needs as equal importance to your own, while to honor someone means to treat all those things as more important than your own.” ~ Sarah Arthur
My friend got a call, her voice kept rising in a bid to explain and make the person at the other end of line see reason. I heard snatches of the conversation. She was speaking with her course mate/friend, they are university students.
After the call ended, she told me that this lady she just spoke with called Jane (not real name) is annoyed because a mutual friend of theirs is complaining that Jane poured out some of her brown powder, foundation and primer without telling her.
She went ahead to explain to me that this mutual friend of theirs Jessica (not real name) saved money for a long time and deprived herself of things just to be able to buy these expensive cosmetics, the most annoying part is that Jane can easily afford those things, after all she has been ordering for clothes and human hair and also Jane is very protective of her belongings and complains a lot when people take something that belongs to her without telling her.
I won’t be surprised if Jessica starts hiding her things from Jane. Everybody isn’t the same, you can take something that belongs to ‘A’ and he/she might overlook it, on the other hand you can take something that belongs to ‘B’ and he/she would get very angry. To be on the safe side it is best to ask the owner before taking. Taking without asking breeds animosity and mistrust.
To the person who takes without asking, it portrays you as selfish, insensitive and unkind. The person got that stuff with his/her money, probably a lot of money so why don’t you show respect and ask for permission before taking or using. More so, it is very unfair if you are very protective of your belongings but have a habit of helping yourself to people’s things.
If your things are being taken without permission, these steps are necessary:
Confront the person: you have to tell the person that you don’t like your things being taken without your permission. He/she might even apologise and promise not to do it again.
Hide your important things: this may sound funny, but what are you going to do when the person doesn’t listen and continues using your stuff without telling you or taking them when you are not around. Unless you are going to find a dog to guard your stuff, install a camera or even find a way to gauge or weigh if your favourite conditioner was used without your permission. Anyway find a place you can remember and hide those things. This way you can avoid some really ugly fights.